How to grow with grace and comfort.
Why most people only care about the headline.
The most common thing about people is, they love to be perceived. Mostly by others rather than themselves. People care more about what their colleague thinks about them rather than what they are under their own skin and what they feel when no one is watching. But this changes immediately when, on a fine morning, that colleague comes up to them and asks about starting a business, then proceeds to ask about the ways to get into it.
Suddenly, a huge shift happens, and they start to feel an urge to gatekeep themselves and their ways. They no longer care what the other person is going to perceive them as. Selfish? Unhelpful? Nothing budges anymore.
This is what I’m going to talk about today.
Your relationship with control and the freeing gesture of letting go, which lets you grow into the best self you could ever be.
When you do something and start having trust in that process, you feel the urge to keep it all to yourself because sharing it with others sparks additional consequences.
It brings out a sense of guilt because you think if you had gone through that path earlier, you would be further along today and feel okay about sharing.
It brings out competition because you keep thinking that keeping everything to yourself will help you stay away from unnecessary traffic.
It brings out the fear of losing because you start having feelings that by sharing the process, you made it way too fast for them to achieve whatever you wanted to achieve.
Another thing it brings out is self-reflection. And that happens when the 3 points above actively rush into your mind. It makes you vulnerable by provoking questions like “Am I selfish?”
The answer is no. You’re not selfish. You’re a human, and it’s normal to have these initial feelings. And you reading this article so diligently proves that you want to make a change, which makes you one step closer to your best self.
Let’s decode the ways to feel better / solve the issue now.
When you don’t want to share your ways, you believe in them more than you believe in yourself. What you have to do is transfer that belief to yourself because efforts pay off. Your hard work is solely yours, and no one is ever taking that away. Limiting competitive traffic is only letting you stay in your comfort zone, where you can’t catch a glance at your growth. Your mindset is not changing when you sit alone and feel safe without challenges.
The competition needs you. It’s your friend.
And you know the shocking fact? Most of the time, the people who ask you about your ways don’t really care. You see how a motivational video sparks an unavoidable energy to get to work and make a future, then dims right after the video is finished. The same things happen here, too.
Your plans will look shiny and glossy to them till you finish saying it. Most people don’t like getting into action because they’re just like how you were once. You would only read the headline and go to sleep till one day you chose to read the whole story, and now you’re here. Taking action are harder because it requires going through everything I talked about above.
You will know when someone is actually making a move after listening to you, and at that moment, you won’t feel that bad. Because you were the go-to person for them to seek growth. How freeing is that?
When you have full faith in your efforts, you don’t doubt it. But when you doubt it, it shows a reflection of yourself about not doing better, and that’s exactly when you want to gatekeep it, because you know the other person might give their full potential.
Be open about sharing your ways, but do protect your goals! Everything around us holds a lesson, so let this lesson be about having control over our energy and emotions while committing to our efforts and protecting our goals. That’s the highest comfort zone after all, isn’t it?
If this article resonated with you, a little piece of your thought is much appreciated. See you around!
